Embracing the Let Them Theory: Taking Control in the Acting Industry

Inspired by Mel Robbins' The Let Them Theory, this blog explores how actors can reclaim their power in an industry that often feels out of their control. The core idea? You can’t control others’ thoughts, feelings, or actions—but you can control yourself. Here’s how to apply this mindset to your career.

Let Them: Releasing What You Can’t Control

The acting industry is unpredictable. Casting decisions, auditions, and even jealousy over roles can feel overwhelming. But here’s the truth: you can’t control who gets called in, who gets cast, or how others perceive your work. Instead of wasting energy on frustration, remind yourself: Let them.

- Let them call you in—or not.

- Let them cast who they want.

- Let them have their opinions about your work.

This simple phrase can help you detach from outcomes and focus on what truly matters: you.

Let Me: Taking Charge of What You Can Control

While you can’t control others, you can control your actions, behaviors, and mindset. This is where the Let Me part of the theory comes in.

- Let me seek out the next opportunity.

- Let me sharpen my skills so I’m ready when the right role comes along.

- Let me take charge of my CV, online presence, and professional development.

By focusing on what you can do, you’ll position yourself for success—regardless of external factors.

Reframing Comparison and Jealousy

Comparison and jealousy are natural, but they don’t have to be destructive. Instead of feeling defeated by someone else’s success, ask yourself: What can I learn from them?

Mel Robbins puts it perfectly: “Jealousy is a calling from your future self to let you know what’s possible.” Use it as motivation to grow, not as a reason to doubt yourself.

Settling Your Mind After an Audition

Auditions can leave you overthinking: Why didn’t they pick me? What could I have done differently? Instead of spiralling, remind yourself: Let them.

- Let them pick who they want.

- Let them follow their vision.

- Let them contact your agent when they’re ready.

This mindset allows you to move forward with clarity and confidence.

Final Thoughts

The acting industry is tough, but you don’t have to let it control you. By embracing The Let Them Theory, you can release what’s out of your hands and focus on what’s within your power. Remember: Let them do their thing—and let you do yours.

Stay focused, stay prepared, and keep moving forward. The right opportunity will come.

Adam.

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